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Natural Hair and the Workplace

Tell me something my naptural readers… how does your boss or co workers react to your natural kinky/curly/coily hair?

This isn’t coming from a place of my boss hates my natural hair or chastises me for having Luquisha out e’ryday. My boss is totally loves everything about my natural hair and encourages me to remain natural. #mostawesomebossEVER

But seriously, I know I’m not in the majority in this topic of discussion.

Tons of bosses don’t understand why women AND men would rather wear their kinky/curly/coily hair out than straighten, cut or wear it in a more “presentable” fashion. Many of them don’t understand the “process” in which it takes to be “presentable” by their standards. Many of them don’t even care to understand and just want to impose a false standard of how people should appear in the workforce.

Again, I have not experienced any backlash from anyone at my job about my hair. My co workers, both male and female, tend to compliment my hair. However, there are also a few other natural folks in my building so maybe that’s why I haven’t had the experience as some other people I’ve read about or seen on YouTube.

But still I am curious and really want to start a positive conversation about this because I think it affects more than just black people. I feel that just because a person [of any color] should not be defined by the hair that grows out of his or her head. But I know there are people in Corporate America that would define my abilities solely because upper management may presume that I’m not as educated as I am because Luquisha has a damn mind of her own.

I dunno. I’m just curious. I think as more people return to their natural hair texture, the more employers will hopefully start to look past appearance and view the person, his or her resume and the work experience as what really matters.

Anyway.. I’m just putting this out there. Please comment below and let me know your views or experiences.


Thanks for reading and stay fro-tastic…


the southern yankee


Sunday Funday Washday… NOT

So I surprised myself today. I completed wash day in record time. Usually by this point of wash day, I’d still be in my bathroom detangling, moisturizing and twisting my hair. Mind you that’s if I start the process of wash day at a decent hour i.e. noon. If I start any later then I might as well not even begin wash day because I wouldn’t get done until well after 23:30. that’s 11:30PM for you non military or broadcast media types.

But today was different somehow. I did indeed start my wash day routine around 12:30 this afternoon. The Houston Texans offense was playing like they ain’t never played a lick of football before and rather than sitting in the kitchen yelling at the TV I decided to do my hair.

So first, I clarified my hair with apple cider vinegar, distiller water and coconut oil. This helps to get rid of a month’s worth of product build up as well as start the process of moisturizing my hair. Some naturals let the ACV H2O mixture sit on their hair for a few minutes. I can’t get past the smell even though today I noticed the smell wasn’t too incredibly bad.

Next, I deep conditioned my hair with a packet of Creme of Nature Argon Oil Intense Conditioning Treatment. I absolutely love this product. Not only does it make my hair soft and shiny but I love how easy it is to detangle Luquisha with this product. Since I didn’t have a lot left over from the last time I deep conditioned my hair plz don’t ask me when that was I had to get creative because I have an over abundance of thick hair. So to make this product stretch, I added a few drops of Garnier Fructis Marvelous Oils to each palm full of the deep conditioner. Once I finish working the product through my hair and pinned the sections, I put on two plastic shower caps and a bonnet and let the deep conditioner stay on my hair until the middle of the second quarter of the Broncos/Dolphins game.

Next, I thoroughly rinsed out the deep conditioner and began the process of washing my hair. I bought a bottle of SheaMoisture Baby shampoo thinking it might be good for Luquisha since she is at a stage where she is getting tired of the shampoo I’m currently using. Yeah no! It made my hair feel so rough and rubbery. That was a waste of time for Luquisha and I. But it will not go to waste because I’m going to get it to boo’s sister to use on my nephew’s hair. Talk about a head full of soft curls. Thankfully, my Herbal Essences Hello Hydration conditioner reversed the rough rubbery feel caused by the baby shampoo. I had to drown Luquisha in conditioner but at least she didn’t feel like wet rubber anymore.

Okay home stretch! Are you tired yet?! cuz I am!!


So at this point, I’m outta the shower and drying off but I didn’t towel or t-shirt dry my hair. Since my hair is so thick, it tends to dry out faster when I towel or t-shirt dry my hair. Plus I want to be able to work the Miss Jessie’s Leave in Condish through Luquisha easily and quickly because I want my hair to still be fully damp when I layer the SheaMoisture or Carol’s Daughter hair milk for added moisture.

As I said, on a normal wash day occasion I would still be twisting and pinning my twists at this very moment instead of blogging about it. So today, I decided to twist my hair into chunky Bantu knots. Not only did this allow me to get done HOURS faster a whole four hours to be exact but the Bantu knots should stretch my hair out pretty well. Unless it’s still damp when I wake up in the more which then shrinkage that sounds so dirty will take over and there will be nothing I can do but rock a cute fro with a bow.

So there’s my wash day. How did your wash day go my naptural bruhs and sistas?!

Thanks for reading…

The Southern Yankee